Thursday, April 2, 2009

My Friend, Mary



Mary Couey was one of your fellow readers of this blog. She was a co-worker and, more importantly, a friend. She was killed on her way home Monday night, hit by a drunk driver. Please keep Mary's family and her fiance, Tony (they were engaged to be married this summer), in your prayers. With all the grief and shock that we have been going through at work, I can't imagine what Mary's family and fiance are suffering right now.

24 comments:

  1. How very, very sad. I'm so sorry.

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  2. Oh my gosh, how awful. I am so, so sorry cuz.

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  3. That's one of the worst aftermath pictures I've ever seen. Very sorry to see this happen to anyone, but reading about her makes it seem so much more insanely unecessary.

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  4. I am Don Couey, Mary's uncle. Our family is heart broken. We are still trying to accept what happened to her. Mary was a super niece. Sweet, intelligent, caring, loving and loyal. She had wisdom and integrity. As my niece Julie said, she was the glue that held her family together. As you mentioned, she and Tony were to be married in June. Tony is a great person and they made a great couple. Mary was a sister to Julie and Danny and a loving aunt to Cindy Gabe and Anna (Julie's kids). My brother Kerry and my sister in law Rose need all the support they can get now. Thanks for posting this information and photo of Mary. Don

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  5. Hi Don, thanks so much for leaving a comment. Mary was a beautiful person, and we all loved her at Drake. I will be writing more about my memories of Mary here, so please feel free to visit again. Also, if you or the family would rather I didn't put her full name or the picture on my blog, just say the word and I'll take it down ASAP.

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  6. This is so very heartbreaking. I'm so sorry for the loss people have experienced through this.

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  7. My heart cries for all of you family and friends. My husband and I were the ones who came upon this accident and called 911. We live in Savannah, but have a cabin in Shooting Creek. I am a tax preparer who uses Drake Software. We were approximately a mile behind her, following her through the mountains. The newspaper picture is tame compared to the horror of that night. I am happy to see a picture of Mary as a vibrant woman. It will help me sleep better at night. Thank you.

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  8. Peggy,
    I am Mary’s mom. My heart stopped and my breath vanished when I read your post. I cannot tell you how much it means to me to know that Mary was not alone. Every night I dream that she lay there, alone, terrified, crying. I know they said it was instantaneous but a mother’s heart aches when she can’t help her child. Just knowing that she was not alone, that if she had needed someone you were there has given me enough peace that I can sleep tonight. Tomorrow we are have a Celebrate Mary’s Life party. You all will be the reason I smile. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

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  9. I am Mary's Aunt Carol. Don and I live near Mary and Tony, off Cold Dranch. Thank you Peggy for writing in. I know this will be a great comfort to Rose and Kerry. Mary was such a lovely young woman, her smile would lift you up even on a good day. I will miss her, but will not be without her for she lives within our hearts.

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  10. Stephanie McManusApril 5, 2009 at 9:37 PM

    I'm a co-worker of Mary's at Drake. Peggy, your comment is actually very comforting to me as well. I know the road she was traveling and have wondered all week how long she must have been there before the accident was even discovered. It's wonderful that there are people like you out there... and it's even better that you're not afraid to comment and bring comfort to those wondering about those last few moments. Mary was a wonderful, wonderful young lady. She will be greatly missed!

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  11. I thought about Mary's celebration party today. My son is also 28 years old. I am only sorry that there was not more we could that night. But I am glad for any comfort my post has brought. Many prayers will be said.

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  12. Hello, I am Mary's friend and college roommate. This is such a tragedy and has left all that knew Mary devastated and confused. She was an amazing woman and friend that cared for everyone she loved as if she was an angel. She was small framed and thin, but never fragile. She was Beauty in every way. As Tony said, Thousands of smiles have been robbed without our Mary in the world. It is so nice to know what others have to say and know how Mary made others smile..she was so good at that. I miss you Mary.....

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  13. Melissa - Hey, this is Mary's Uncle Donnie. I wanted to thank you for the printed memorial of Mary. It is the finest printed tribute and pictures of a loved one I have ever seen. It perfectly captures Mary's life. I keep it in my car. Carol and I will cherish it and keep it forever. God bless you and keep safe. Don

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  14. I am overwhelmed that so many people have responded to this post, and that Peggy and Mary's mom, and Don and Melissa, were able to communicate through this blog. Wow. Thanks, all, for your comments--they have helped me as well. :)

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  15. Jonathon Couey said...
    I am Mary's Uncle. Mary was a special little girl and special young Lady!

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  16. I am Regina Moore and I work with Mary's Aunt Carol Couey and know her Uncle Don. They are very dear and special people to me.I never had the privilege to meet Mary in person, but I know by the words that she was a beautiful young lady and was very much loved and adored. There are no words to describe the pain everyone is feeling from this tragedy. I know her parents and family and friends are suffering a pain greater than they thought possible. The only thing on this earth that I know greater than that pain is the love and the joy that Mary brought into everyone's life. Oh, there is not a greater love on this earth than a love for your child. When your body and your mind is overwhelmed by the pain, think of the love, think of the smiles, think of the laughter, and think of her tender lips kissing you on the cheek. That is greater than the pain. I know this for sure. October 16th, 1997, on the Franklin Mt., Carla Rachelle Edwards was also killed by a drunk driver. She was 16 years old and she was my precious baby. She too was a few minutes from home, she too was born in 1981, she too loved the outdoors and she too, the same as Mary was robbed of her life on earth. Rachelle and Mary never met on this earth but I am sure today, they are the best of friends and are having a blast. I am sure their energy level is overwhelming today and Heaven doesn't know what has hit them. When your pain seems unbearable, look at the beautiful sky and think of Mary, when you feel the sun on you face, that is Mary kissing your cheek, when you feel the wind blowing, that is Mary giving you a big hug, when you feel the rain drops on you, that is Mary laughing so hard she is crying from something she has said or done. Always feel Mary from God's creation, because she will always be with you. You will always have her memories and they are so precious. There is nothing and no one that can take that away from you. Our children are God's gift to us and so are their memories. God is always good. BLESSED BE THE NAME OF THE LORD.

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  17. I'm a bit late to post.. but I kinda need to.

    I haven't seen Mary in person for .. oh.. more than 10 years.

    Damn. I mean.. I only remember her as a child.. one of my many cousins in the Couey clan, but...

    She was special. Honestly. I'm glad to see that she grew up to be the person I knew she would.

    And you're all right about that smile.

    I missed out.

    All my best, Kerry and Rose, Julie and Danny. And everyone.

    -Dave

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  18. Is this little David? Give us a call. Mary thought she found you last year on the internet. We were searching for you last week also.
    Rose

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  19. That's horrible! Oh, Nina, I'm so sorry that this world lost such a beautiful soul...

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  20. Hello everyone,
    My name is Amanda and I am Mary's brother, Danny's girlfriend (thats a mouthful). Right now I am sitting in my accounting class at Ga State University holding back tears. It is safe to say I am not paying any attention, but I just felt the need to comment as well. I remember Mary as this cute, little, ball of sunshine. She really did brighten every room she walked into. I only knew Mary for about a year, but you only needed one day to love her. She was always willing to stay up until 3 in the morning and have silly conversations with me, or lend helpful words when I was feeling down. Her huge smile that was bigger than her little body was always plastered on her face, and thats how I will always see her in my mind. Mary and I became instant allies against Danny as well. He would get into these moods where he would just pick a fight with me or Mary about something ridiculous and he would be blantenly wrong (which he usually is, just kidding) and me and Mary would always have each other's back during these crazy Danny moods. Mary once said Danny would try to tell her the sky was green and argue with her for 2 hours about it. I remember laughing so hard that it would hurt when they would have these silly arguments, Mary was so much smaller than Danny but she always held her own! When you say Mary wouldn't hurt a fly it was true! I remember being at her house several times and noticing that her eggs in the fridge only came from chickens who were never caged up. How adorable is that?! I didn't even know they sold eggs like that. Thats just how she was...so caring and loving. I really wish I had more time with Mary, but I feel so lucky to have met her. She has truly impacted my life along with so many others. I can only strive to be more like her one day.

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  21. This is a late comment but I just found out about Mary yesterday while at a bridal shower. Mary, Julie and Danny were in my youth group at New Hope Christian Church. I love all of the Couey's, Kerry and Rose included and they all made a huge impact on my life. Mary was a gentle person who loved her family tremendously. She would defend them from anything and everyone. She had this sweet, precious smile that would warm you from the inside, out. I wish that I had kept in touch with Mary and the rest of the Coueys' and I am so sorry that a tragedy like this brought us back in touch. The loss of someone like Mary is so unbelievable to me. It just seemed like she would always be the same vibrant, loving girl I knew her as. My heart breaks for you, Kerry and Rose and for you Julie and Danny. My prayers are with you now and every day that you face without Mary.
    Lisa Kennedy (formerly Lisa Huff)

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  22. I am so sorry for the loss of your friend Mary. My heart goes out to everyone in her family and to all those that knew and loved her.

    Cynthia Hagain, MADD Georgia

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  23. I was at our 10 year High School reunion and although we never stayed in touch I expected to see everyone I knew there. When I was told to visit the table where there were pictures of Mary - My heartached - It's soo hard to believe that in a blink of an eye a wonderful life can be lost. My prayers go out to all your family. Mary my prayer is that one day we will be able to see you again. We missed you but were told you were looking forward to the reunion so I know you were there in spirit.

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  24. I am Connie DeMarco. My nephew Tony was to marry Mary this year. Mary brought out all the best qualities in Tony. As others have stated, Mary's smile was beautiful and real! My family and I miss Mary but are grateful for the time short time Mary was in our lives.

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